I hope that the time you spend on this journey we call life is a great one for you. One that’s filled with much joy, love, happiness and most of all peace and acceptance with who you are.
Last week I shared my story of a young girls’ deepest desires to be accepted and loved and most of all to feel valued!
What I’ve learned throughout my life is this….we all need to be cherished, acknowledged, valued and loved. With all of these ingredients, we feel love, accept love and love ourselves.
When these things are missing in some way, we tend to look for ways in which to self-medicate, if you will. Whether that’s in the form of self-destruction through alcohol, drugs, sex, food or the wrong relationships.
What is it for you? Do you find you have a love/hate relationship with food? Or have you been a seeker of love in all the wrong places? Have you gotten to the place where you say enough is enough?
In my many conversations with clients, friends, family, colleagues, the underlying reasons are always the same. We want what we perceive we can’t have. We aren’t being fulfilled in certain areas of our lives.
How do you change this? First of all being willing to admit there is a problem, and then being willing to do the work.
The work comes in the form of creating an intention, a plan of action and doing the work.
Let’s use the example of stress eating. I find that when I’m stressed, I do one of two things, I don’t eat OR I tend to eat all the wrong things. I will find myself raiding the cupboards or refrigerator in search of something, anything, even if I’m not hungry. Do you do this? Have you ever made a run to the store or the drive thru just to satisfy this so-called, “need?”
There are definitely tricks and tips that I can help make you aware before you stuff your face, things like mental and physical triggers.
Last week I also challenged you with Hour of Health. How many took me up on this? In case you missed it, we were agreeing to spending the first hour of your day on something health related for 3 days. Things like…
Preparing a proper breakfast using whole foods
Working out (that means breaking a sweat)
Reading something that will improve your health
Taking action on a goal that you set for yourself to improve your health
So, the big question, how did it go for you? And even bigger, did you keep going past the 3 days that I suggested?
When you can set simple goals for yourself AND achieve them, it certainly sets you up with the confidence to push yourself further and set more goals.
I’ve always talked about taking baby steps in any new endeavor; this ensures that you are more likely to stick with the new habit that you are attempting to form.
So what are you thinking about now? Does any of this resonate with you or with someone you know? Often times, I might not see an immediate problem because I’m too close to it or what about the infamous victim mode.
You know what that is right?
- I eat because I’m bored and he/she bought it anyway
- I just drink in the evenings because I need to unwind from my job
- My spouse/significant other isn’t on board, so I can’t eat healthy most of the time
- My childhood was horrific, so it’s not my fault that I eat when I’m stressed.
The list could go on and on and on. But I think you get the idea. This is one of those areas that get tricky because often times we don’t know that we’re playing the victim.
When we can learn to identify it, we can be well on our way to recovery.
I will leave you with this….If I touched on a nerve or you identified something that I said in yourself, and you’d like to make a plan to get unstuck and out of your current situation, let’s chat.
Together we can come up with your triggers and an action plan for attacking them every single time they come up. Not only that, but what to do if your partner isn’t very supportive.
What’s one thing you know you need to change, but it just seems like you are climbing a mountain and it’s impossible for you? Leave your comments below.
To your health,
Holistic Health Coach
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